I was going to change my bulb.. so I was taking off the rubber and then I was pressing the tabs when the whole thing fell apart in my hand. The whole thing was charred and now my harness is jacked, the bulb is stick in there.. and I'm really pissed... how can I get the bulb out now? I just have the 3 prongs of the bulb exposed and I don't know how to pull it out

Needle nose pliers?

Take a pic of your situation, it'll help others provide the relevant advice.

isn't there a clip to secure the bulb in the housing? Sounds like you're running high wattage bulbs with stock harness? I want to upgrade my harness but I can't find an H1/9005 setup anywhere. Maybe I'll make my own, just gotta find the proper harness plugs so it's plug and play.