Sorry to read about your problems. That's some shipping error. I would think it pretty difficult to confuse a book for a swaybar. Aren't swaybar about four feet long!?!
I haven't been following your saga, but have you checked with www.pdmracing.com?
I've ordered twice from Don without incident. It might be worth the wait.
Find any WRXers for that training manual at ~$170? j/k Grill ISR for that one!
May the B4 be with you!