When you reset the ECU it will die once you hook it back up and attempt to start it but that should not continue to happen after the first one or two tries.
When all of those indicator lights come on the car is in limp mode. You need to go get the code pulled so that you actually have a clue as to what is going on. Your car is trying to tell you something. Better to listen than to try and shut it up. It may save you a few bucks in the end. Autozone pulls codes for free.