well ive found the problem.
something to do with my oil pressure wire. it was sliced into when i was trying to clean up my engine bay so i cut it and re-soldered it. when i connect the pos and neg of the battery, and unplug the oil pressure wire, they shut off. when i plug it right back in, it stays off. i tried just turning the key to the on position (car is still apart with the harness out) and the lights kinda freaked out. i guess ill have to recheck it when i get it all back together tomorrow and hopefully they will act normal.