All options have been exhausted as for as adjustability on the ipod and on the stereo.
This has been happening since day one when I bought the car a little over a year and a half ago so I do not think it is worn. I usually just listen to CD's or the radio but I am going on a fairly length roadtrip which is why I want to finally fix it.
When I had the wire I do not remember how many black strips were on it. I think I bought the cheapest one when I went to best buy and I ended up returning it. I guess I'll get one with two black strips to start and see if that alleviates the problem.
I appreciate all the support!