Did you ever get your BT to work? Mine was working just great (after a bit of initial fussing). Then I installed some new sound equipment (left the head alone) AND dropped my phone in ice tea (yeah, I'm a genius).
So now I have a new phone and the stereo was reset by pulling the battery, puts me back to square one. At first the phone would pair with the car, but then the connection was flat out dropped a few times. Now the phone doesn't even see the CAR_M_MEDIA connection available. I'm worried that something has happened to the BT transmitter on my car. :-(