Yeah, BT shortcut has been my fix for now. Froyo 2.2 was working great with BT for me (prior to my iced tea incident), so I don't think that is all of the problem, tho it may be some of it.
My current thought is that there is and additional service running now that is causing the BT to behave poorly. I'm trying to remember what I've installed since the BT was working and have been selectively uninstalling items.
Pandora is a go-to for me too, mainly because I don't do a good job of maintaining a varied library on the phone (syncing with iTunes sucks). Then I found Jam11. Stream music from your PC/Mac to your phone, works OK. Now I have 100G worth of music on my phone, more or less.