got it all machined, and put back together, overall i am %100 sure the frustration was less than swaping the bellhousing (for me at least with only 2 jackstands (that i don't have right now) and no jack, and limited tools and no experience with the tranny.
the fix workes beautifully, tight toleranced, i would be it is stronger than the stock set up.
i'll put up some pix i took later but for now- I'M GOING FOR A DRIVE! WOOOHOOO!!!!