I just ran into this thread so here's my piece of peace- This Sept it will be 10 years. With all due respect to anyone that lost a family member or friend, hopefully they may move forward.
Life is beautiful, so live, stay away from anger, hate and fear. Everyday is a new day.
I have and will be dealing with this day for the rest of my career as a member of the FDNY. Our house lost 8 guys, 2 weren't even on duty but still got on the rigs to respond. None of them ever made it out alive.
I see their faces on our firehouse memorial every time I'm at work as a reminder. I've seen their families every year on that day for the last 8 years. It is sad, however I see hope and happiness in their eyes mixed with anger and fear. We must move on as a society, a civil society who does not pre-judge, but uses their better judgment based on ones character, not creed, eco-social status, ethnic back-round etc.
I overstand that some of us may never forget, but with time comes healing and reflection..we should not reflect on why this happened or who did this, because it's bigger than most of us can imagine or even control. We should reflect on why life is so beautiful. This is something that is in front of my thoughts every time I step into the firehouse; the fact that life is beautiful and I may not come home from work. You only get one swing at life when you're at bat, so try to hit a home run in all you do because that time at the plate is really short.