Man you serioiusly have the "gotta haves". You're my hero! Your not alone with dealing with the ole ball'n chain though, been there and done that. Just tell her look honey, I have another engine I was going to swap in anyway! Then you stretch the truth and say hey honey, I'll be able to sell the OEM unit for some cash
- dont forget to smile when you lay down the news.
A word of advice - though you may already know it - get a total game plan and a realistic outlook on what you really want to achieve. You seem to keep moving your goals, that's ok as long as all the other parts keep up with the new goals. If you don't think the plan over each time the plan changes you risk having a weak link that makes things go way wrong.
Also you will almost never be satisfied with the amount of power. Who is
. Remember its your DD, not a race car, and even good parts and install wont guarantee you wont have many little issues you will always be chasing down. The more you mod the more likely that is.
Just some friendly advice. Otherwise have fun. and good luck.