Well, I have answers to most of my questions now if anyone is interested.
#1) Wait time for a new Subaru is usually MUCH longer than expected.
#2) I think the Sport Mesh Grill says excluded because the chrome trimmed one is an option in one of the packages I selected (all-weather I believe). Also, Subaru doesn't seem to think that someone who orders the all-weather package could possibly want the sport mesh grill, therefore it says excluded.
#3) philbobz answered this for me. Thanks! http://parts.subarupartswarehouse.co...iagram=7595250
#4) It looks like for this I'll have to take it to a specialty shop, deal with it at a lower brightness, or figure it out on my own.
#5) I do remember reading a lot of threads on these forums about people installing LED's all over the new Imprezas so it has to be possible. I'm not terribly concerned about this right now, I just want to get my dang car first.
Let me know if there's anything I missed or anything you can add.