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06-28-2009, 01:24 PM | #1 |
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Guys, I'm worried about my SO.
I don't know what's wrong with her. All of her life that I have known her she has been a fighter, she's been strong, full of willpower as far as to be stubborn. She's always fought on even when she was really upset, but about 6 months ago she changed. That's about the time she graduated from college and started looking for full time work.
I'm honestly worried about her right now. All she does is cry, sleep, wake up, cry, and sleep some more. It started about a week ago 2 days before she started her new job, she began to feel queasy, then she couldn't sleep. She has been waking up nearly every night with panic attacks and she can't sleep. She has no will to do anything, she isn't eating and her hair started falling out 2 weeks ago and she's super stressed about that too. She has been to the doctor and gotten prescription Xanex (sp?), Celexa, and 2 others, one for her hair and one for immediate relief, but nothing is helping her. She used to be on Celexa but went off it 9 months ago and she was doing alright up until a week ago. I don't know what to do, yesterday I got her to laugh and smile a bit, but then I had to go to work, and when I got home she was asleep already. This morning she is a wreck again and I couldn't cheer her up. She won't go out with our friends and I think she should to relax a little, but she's so upset she won't do it.
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06-28-2009, 01:26 PM | #2 |
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Sounds like an anxiety problem to me. I hate telling people to go get on behavioral medicine, but it sounds like what she needs, as well as your support. She's going through some changes right now and probably just needs help getting over the hump. Good luck.
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06-28-2009, 01:27 PM | #3 |
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yeah, that's called clinical depression. She needs meds and therapy.
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06-28-2009, 01:28 PM | #4 |
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06-28-2009, 01:32 PM | #6 |
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What did she major in? What is her job? How long was she in college? Did she go to college after high school or is this a life change thing?
Just a few questions I can think of that would help you. My guesses. College life to work is a shock to some. The work, or more likely the work environment, may be more stressful than she anticipated. Maybe she realized that she will not enjoy the line of work she has chosen and feels like so much time was wasted. My suggestion: Get her to open up. Find out what it is that is truly bothering her. Let her know how much she means to you, but make sure you just listen. Don't tell her that you "understand". Let her pain be as traumatic to you as it is to her. Once there is more information, then better suggestions could be given. |
06-28-2009, 01:34 PM | #7 |
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Has she been missing her period cycle? it could be her hormones been way out of balance and stuck in a vicious cycle that's causing both psychological and physiological symptoms. If she's been seeing a general practitioner she might need to go to her OB/GYN.
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06-28-2009, 01:35 PM | #8 |
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Xanax is a ****ty drug that is extremely physically and psychologically addictive. Withdrawals can kill you. Use with caution. I take Buspar for my anxiety and it works great.
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06-28-2009, 01:40 PM | #9 | |
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-She's a Graphic Design Major -She's working design in a print company -She was 4.5 years, 2.5 at a community, 2 at Muhlenberg. -She went straight to college from high school, and had a 3.85 GPA. She's told me she's stressing over the job, learning all the new things she has to. She's worried she's asking too many questions while being trained. She's super upset about her hair falling out. She's stressed about us having just purchased a new house, even though I've reassured her through numbers we are just fine. I've done all of the above, tried reassuring her I'm not upset, I love her, she's not a burden, but she keeps saying she doesn't want to be a burden, etc... I got her flowers, and doing all I can to help, I just feel like it isn't helping |
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06-28-2009, 01:42 PM | #10 | |
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Ya, she only has a week or two prescribed until her Celexa builds in her system and takes over. She has been complaining about vision fuzziness and lighteadedness. |
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06-28-2009, 01:48 PM | #11 |
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06-28-2009, 01:53 PM | #12 | |
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Her medical office called today, maybe it was the results. |
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06-28-2009, 01:55 PM | #13 |
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Did she change anything else 6 months ago? I know transitioning from student to worker can be rough.
Did she give up drugs? College friends? Drinking? Exercise? I know it may sound really dumb but try encouraging her to get outside on bright sunny days and running/jogging/walking/biking. Exercise is a natural mood stabilizer. |
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Good luck to your wife. I suffer from General Anxiety Disorder and it really is crippling. |
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06-28-2009, 01:58 PM | #15 |
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Yeah... getting her on meds might not necessarily be the best thing either. It can make or break a person when ****ing with their psyche.
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06-28-2009, 02:00 PM | #16 |
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get her out of the house, make her interact with you or family or friends. The worst thing for her is to stay inside and sulk. Does her employer know that she is this stressed out?
Maybe try giving her boss a call, you know, just to give her some positive re-enforcement at work and let him know whats going on. Just hope that he doesn't wig out over and think that if this is too much she needs time off. |
06-28-2009, 02:05 PM | #17 |
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Sounds like she's depressed on her overall situation. How long have you guys been together, and what's the specifics of the relationship? Likely your reluctance to do everything and anything for her is contributing to her condition. Buying a house with someone right after college probably isn't helping her achieve independence like she envisioned it would. I'm completely unaware of your situational specifics, but a change in lifestyle and cure to her depression may not include you.
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06-28-2009, 02:05 PM | #18 | |
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Ya, she's pretty messed up now and looking forward to the meds balancing her out, she's not even fighting it which worries me the most. She didn't even try to fight. |
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06-28-2009, 02:10 PM | #19 |
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Have her go see a therapist. Depression can't always be solved by drugs, and in a lot of cases, it makes things worse. Also, a therapist is trained to see positive or negative changes better than you are, it would give you peace of mind as well.
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06-28-2009, 02:10 PM | #20 | |
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Ya, cuz your logic makes total sense until it hits the fact that I'm the only one who has cheered her up since this started. She's been out of college 6 months, and she is the one who pushed for the house and searched fervently for the job. I understand you don't know our situation, but the way you wrote that seemed like I was the issue. This is not the case, and I think 8 years together happily is verification of the fact I am NOT the cause of her problems. |
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06-28-2009, 02:18 PM | #21 |
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i'd put a hold on that house brah.
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06-28-2009, 02:21 PM | #22 |
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Wow. I don't have any advice. But I do hope she get's better.
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06-28-2009, 02:27 PM | #23 | |
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Could she be/have been pregnant??
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