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Old 02-08-2003, 03:32 PM   #1
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If I disappear (again ) on anyone over the next several days, I apologize. Some very not fun things are happening right now (well, they have been for a long time, but recently things got quite a bit worse). Why am I telling you all this? I dunno- most of you are like family to me, and those of you who aren't simply aren't because I haven't met you before. Some of you are like crazy Aunt Gretchen (you know, the one who likes to knit obscure things and put doilies under everything, and covers the furniture in plastic- everyone has one ) in your own ways, but I digress. As some of you know, my mom has COPD- Chronic Obstructive Pulmonary Disease. It's fatal. With treatment, it takes longer to be fatal. With a lung or lung lobe transplant, patients have a fighting chance. In a nutshell, is a progressive degredation of the lungs. About two years ago, we found out she had this, because she quite literally nearly died- we didn't know she had it. She spent a week in a regular hospital and about 2 weeks in a Rehab, learning to cope and do the daily things in life in new ways- she became one of those people you see strapped to green oxygen tanks. At any rate, they were going to put her on a transplant list as long as she lost X number of pounds, to make surgery safe. She worked at it for nearly a year and she did lose the weight, and she got on the transplant list. About 2 months ago she was notified that she had made it to the top 5 list- there are 5 people, each with different blood types and characteristics, who are the 'fist pick' if a donor matching their type is found. This was the absolute high point- she was nearly guaranteed now to get her transplant, and have a shot at a 'normal' life again. She went to the doctor's for one of her routine check ups last week, and they became concerned about some nodes/lumps they found, so they did a biopsy. She heard back from the doctors yesterday with devastating news- she has cancer. The cancer by itself oddly enough isn't the problem... they are about 95% sure that it can be totally taken care of, as it was found so very very early. Problem is, one of the 'rules' of the transplant game is that you have to be cancer-free for two years. She'll be dead long before then without a lung transplant. So cancer, without being the direct cause, will now be her executioner. It's all a bit much to take- your parents are the ones who always made you 'better' when you were sick as a kid, and you always had the idea they were invincible. You'd like to at least be able to return the favor, but there is 100% absolutely nothing I can do, and I'm furious that I can't. Mom told me yesterday 'everything happens for a reason' but I'm just not seeing it now. I'm not looking for pity, sympathy, or anything like that- I think I just needed to 'talk' about it or something. That, and I wanted you folks to know what's going on if I'm not around for awhile. Take care of your families and hold them close and dear- you never know when they may not be with you anymore. Cherish the times you're pissed off at one another, because you will still have the time to make up. Don't say 'not now, maybe later' to your kids, because tomorrow may never come. Take every chance to make new memories, because someday, they're going to be all you have.


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Old 02-08-2003, 03:46 PM   #2
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I'm sure the comfort of your visits will be of great benefit to your mother.

Take care, I'm thinking of ya!

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Old 02-08-2003, 03:48 PM   #3
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Brian,

My sincerest condolences. It has to be a rough time for you right now. Please don't hesitate to call if you need anything.

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Old 02-08-2003, 03:49 PM   #4
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Old 02-08-2003, 04:57 PM   #5
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I know there's not anything I can say right now that will help, having been through something similar myself. But as Im sure you know, we're all here if you need anything.

Take care,
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Old 02-08-2003, 04:58 PM   #6
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that's horrible man, I didn't know.

but as ed said, you're presence will make a large difference in the comfort she has in the time coming.

good luck

speed safely

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Old 02-08-2003, 05:03 PM   #7
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*HUGZ*

Let me know if there is anything I can do to help.

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Old 02-08-2003, 05:28 PM   #8
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Wow. I am glad you are sharing your pain. None of us can help heal your mum but we have all been effected by it. I know what its like to lose a parent. But not the way your losing your mum. I can relate to the being ill. As my grandma who was like my mum went bit by bit. I hated seeing here taken away from me one bit at a time. She was not able to walk because after 4 heart operations it really took the toll on her. She could not pump enough oxygen arround her body because of the damage done to her heart. Day by day she was losing more and more mortions. Strapped to an oxygen bottle and water fountains in the room. I felt so useless I was 8 years old. I knew she was being taken from me. My grandad was a wreak watching his wife being torn from him. It was such an effort for her to speak to me through the mask. She though it for almost 2 years in which time she had 2 strokes. Her brain began shutting down one function at a time. It was like the ultimate punishment for me for nothing. She what I would say Finaly passed away in hospital. Where I thought it was over with.

My grandad became so depressed. I would go and see him everyday. We moved him to a apartment. And he still would not live. He visited all the places he could remember going to with his wife came home and then just rotted away him his chair till he died. I will never ever give up life like that no matter what happens. I have good thoughts of both of them. Which I will cherish for as long as I can.

My heart goes out to your family. I know its hard. But keep going. When your with her. Think of the happy moments you both had. I am not sure how bad it is. But help her relive some of them moments. I am sure she is really depressed.

Take her on one more visit to her most loved place. Find one you both would love to go to and then you will have a special place together.

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Old 02-08-2003, 06:19 PM   #9
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I am so sorry Brian. Take care of her while you can.
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Old 02-08-2003, 11:40 PM   #10
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I'm sorry to hear Brian. Your presence will make a difference. My thoughts are with you.
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Old 02-09-2003, 12:22 AM   #11
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oh man, I'm sorry to hear it. There has been way too much of this going on lately (I have three friends whose family members have passed within the last month).

Anyway, the only thing you can do, then, is just make the best of the time you do have left with her. Your disappearance from i-club will totally be understood, that's for sure
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Old 02-09-2003, 12:31 AM   #12
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I'm sorry to hear Brian. Your presence will make a difference. My thoughts are with you.
Suresh
Ditto!!

I wish I could say more but I'm finding it hard to type because of how I feel. But yeah, go out with her to her favorite spots and make those the best of times!

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Old 02-09-2003, 12:52 AM   #13
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That really sucks man... Take everyone's advice and make her as happy as you can make her while you still have her. Bring her flowers, take her to wherever she can go to, just make her happy... The memories of seeing her happy will help you get through all this and put her at peace.

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Old 02-09-2003, 04:59 AM   #14
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Thats a really tough position. I hope for the best for you and your mom.
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Old 02-09-2003, 08:25 AM   #15
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Best wishes to you guys.

Your Mom has built a brick house. Its taken years for her to build. Its within you and filled with values, personality, morals, and memories. That brick house will remain forever.
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Old 02-09-2003, 08:43 AM   #16
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Hey, Brian.

Well my friend, terribly sorry to hear about all of this, but if you ever need anything, I'm not a far drive away.

Try to keep a positive outlook as much as possible, and over everything else, spend time with her.

Take care-
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Old 02-09-2003, 11:46 AM   #17
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Hey Brian,

Watching a loved-one wilt away is one of the worst experiences... But you're doing a good thing, going to spend more time with her.

Best wishes to you and your family. And stay strong, others will feed off of you.
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Old 02-09-2003, 03:11 PM   #18
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Thank you all so very much for your support... it really does mean the world to me. It makes things just a bit easier to know I have so much support and well-wishing behind me... "It was the best of times, it was the worst of times..." eh ?


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Old 02-09-2003, 11:11 PM   #19
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So sorry to hear that Brian.

After reading your post I sent nice emails to all the members of my family. I do miss them.

Thank you for sharing and god bless.

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Old 02-09-2003, 11:32 PM   #20
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im bad at putting words together in a situation like this and almost didn't post but i really want to send my best wishes and say that we are all here for you.

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Old 02-10-2003, 08:55 AM   #21
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best wishes, thoughts, & prayers.
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Old 02-10-2003, 09:43 AM   #22
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Brian, I'm not going to reiterate what others have said here so eloquently, but know that my thoughts and prayers, as well as those of my family, are with you.

I lost a best friend to combined transplant rejection and the waiting list, so I know how infuriating it can be to be helpless in a situation like this.

You've got my number if you wanna' talk, meet up, etc.

I'm pullin' for ya...

/Andrew

PS --

For the rest of us, know that checking the 'organ donor' slot on your driver's license means the difference with one more slot on 'the list.' In the end, only more donations can help alleviate these sorts of requirements on transplant candidates. Check the box.
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Old 02-10-2003, 10:18 AM   #23
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For the rest of us, know that checking the 'organ donor' slot on your driver's license means the difference with one more slot on 'the list.' In the end, only more donations can help alleviate these sorts of requirements on transplant candidates. Check the box.
Mine is - I did this when I renewed in '02.
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Old 02-10-2003, 10:35 AM   #24
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Very sorry to hear this. I don't really know how it works, but can you go to other hospitals or something to see if there is a way to keep her place on the list or do something? My thoughts and prayers shall be for you both.
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Old 02-10-2003, 10:42 AM   #25
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Sorry to hear it Brian... It's kinda hard to know what to do or say, but if you need anything, don't hesitate to ask.

Take care of her while she's here.

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