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Old 02-16-2003, 11:52 PM   #1
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Angry Possible stalker issue!

Ok, before its too late - I am not being stalked, and I am not stalking aybody!

But my girlfriend may be! You see, a couple weeks before we met she went out with this guy on 4 dates, and basically concluded he was a loser.

She has explained to this guy several times that there is nothing there. That she has a new guy. That she has no commitment to him, and that she is not interested in furthuring what they have. But this guy doesn't seem to get the clue.

Today he called her twice, and left messages. He loves her, he wants to marry her and have kids together.

Normally I would let something like this slide, but this guy is beginning to push MY buttons! Unfortunately, there is not a single thing I can do for way too many reasons to list.

So, she is going to explain it to him again that she isn't interested and that she has a boyfriend and he needs to stop. I am afraid this guy could really go crazy and start stalking the woman I love. Is it time to be worried yet?

I know my girlfriend is a big girl. She doesn't need me to protect her. That still doesn't mean I don't worry.

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PS: Crazy Guy Message to my girlfriend 390k wav file
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Old 02-16-2003, 11:54 PM   #2
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She needs to call the police, asap; they take this stuff seriously nowadays, and even if he didn't do anything criminal yet, they will get in touch with him and tell him to lay off though.

Dollars to donuts she won't do it.
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Old 02-16-2003, 11:58 PM   #3
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That guy sound bloody annoying, sounds like he spent too much time with solid excrete.

But yes a serious issue, if you were stalked (assuming you disliked it), you would want the person to stop, the only thing is to let the law take it. Dealing with it personally can cause more problems later on.

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Old 02-16-2003, 11:58 PM   #4
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I would let her handle it for now man but be on your guard these type of people need serious help. If she trys to get the message through to him and he does not get the clue then get involved. I am sure this guy is a complete and utter idiot but if he does not understand "Go Away" then I am sure a nice restraining order will do nicely.
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Old 02-17-2003, 12:00 AM   #5
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Sweet dancing Moses, that guy sounds like a total psycho! Play that recording to the cops and tell them the story behind it and get a restraining order on the guy. People like that can get dangerous. Tell your girlfriend to be careful.
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Old 02-17-2003, 12:04 AM   #6
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That message from the machine is uber creepy...That guys got issues!!
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Old 02-17-2003, 12:06 AM   #7
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I have the solution to your problem:



+7 rounds of ammo = problem solved

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Old 02-17-2003, 12:46 AM   #8
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yeah, I agree that guy is full of sketch.

wicked creepy
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Old 02-17-2003, 12:48 AM   #9
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Damn. Audio and everything.

Definitely call the cops! Get a restraining order on that weirdo before it gets dangerous!
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Old 02-17-2003, 12:55 AM   #10
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break his legs.

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Old 02-17-2003, 12:57 AM   #11
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What a tool! This guy needs to get a life. Sounds way to shady to me.
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Old 02-17-2003, 01:43 AM   #12
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holy crap...thats the best message evar...who the hell leaves a message like that

oh god...LOL...wow
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Old 02-17-2003, 01:53 AM   #13
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Was it just me or did it sound like he was pulling his pud while leaving that message?
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Old 02-17-2003, 02:35 AM   #14
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Call the cops.... nah on the other hand get like 4 or 5 of your biggest friends and have her call him up and lure him to her place or somewhere private where you and your buddies will be waiting to jump him. Beat the excrement out of him with, tie him up, put a bag over his head, throw him in the trunk of a car and drive some where in the middle of nowhere, something like 20 miles away from the city. Once you get there you and your friends pretend to have an arguement over whether or not to kill him, your friends barely manage to convince you not to do anything, reluctantly you tell him that if you ever see him again he won't be so lucky, give him a few more kicks and then leave him there.
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Old 02-17-2003, 02:47 AM   #15
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wow..speechless....
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Old 02-17-2003, 02:55 AM   #16
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That guy (on the tape) does sound psyco/obsessed or whatever. Tell your GF not to see him anywhere not public, ie. don't let him in her house, do not go to his house, etc.
A thing like this is happening witha friend of mine, his GF, and her ex too. The guy is a nut job and cant come to grips with the fact he was dumped, so he just keeps calling, visiting, etc. I don't know, maybe this guy is a harmless idiot who thinks he is being smooth, because he assumes that women want a relationship that is meaningful, etc. and just has poor social skills/grip on reality. Good luck.
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Old 02-17-2003, 03:01 AM   #17
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I don't recomend the .50 cal. Use a sniper rifle. U don't want to leave any witnesses, just put the man out of his misery.

Be a man, treat a man like a man. I know u would want it done to u if u turn into a bubbling piece of effluent like the stalker.
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Old 02-17-2003, 03:16 AM   #18
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very scary. i would talk to the police too. he has very serious emotional ties that are totally unhealthy and could really get dangerous. right now he thinks that she isn't serious about you or she isn't serious about NOT being with him. as she makes this more and more clear, he will have to go to greater lengths of denial. the problem is that the more blunt she is, the more likely he is to get angry, and with anger comes a greater propensity towards violence. you say you can't do anything - and this i understand, but you DO need to convince your girlfriend that this guy is probably dangerous. since she knows him, she probably thinks he isn't. and girls are often funny about these things and don't like to think about the very real dangers of these situations so they often deny it to themselves and others, so it might very well take some convincing - but it's for her own good.

and he get's a :monkey:
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Old 02-17-2003, 03:56 AM   #19
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I'm a cop. Call the cops. Create a paper trail. If this thing comes to violence later (i.e. he comes a-callin' in the middle of the night and there's a fight of some kind), you and your girlfriend want to be on record in the "complainant/victim" role.

Get a restraining order. If it doesn't get the message across, then you'll know you're dealing with a committed stalker and can take appropriate avoidance, protection measures.
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Old 02-17-2003, 07:14 AM   #20
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Quote:
Originally posted by Ikonosin
That message from the machine is uber creepy...That guys got issues!!
Totally Agree...after listening to that Audio!
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Old 02-17-2003, 07:23 AM   #21
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I'm a cop. Call the cops. Create a paper trail. If this thing comes to violence later (i.e. he comes a-callin' in the middle of the night and there's a fight of some kind), you and your girlfriend want to be on record in the "complainant/victim" role.

Get a restraining order. If it doesn't get the message across, then you'll know you're dealing with a committed stalker and can take appropriate avoidance, protection measures.
Yep, skip all the macho crap and just get the law involved. If you get up in the guys face, he'll be on your case too....do you really want to be watching out for this guy? I know your pissed and annoyed, but it's in your best intrest to get this documented and heading down the correct legal paths. You don't want to confront him only to find out that he isn't rational and is crazy.....and now you have a pissed off crazy guy harrassing you too.
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Old 02-17-2003, 09:54 AM   #22
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Nuke him from orbit...it's the only way to be sure.
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Old 02-17-2003, 10:00 AM   #23
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Quote:
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I'm a cop. Call the cops. Create a paper trail. If this thing comes to violence later (i.e. he comes a-callin' in the middle of the night and there's a fight of some kind), you and your girlfriend want to be on record in the "complainant/victim" role.

Get a restraining order. If it doesn't get the message across, then you'll know you're dealing with a committed stalker and can take appropriate avoidance, protection measures.
I'm convinced the police are useless in this situation. Why? I've had first-hand experience in this (my ex-gf was/is being stalked by someone). He went up to her and grabbed her and police were involved. What did the cops do? NOTHING. They held both of them and treated HER like the criminal w/o access to her phone. We were supposed to meet for lunch and I couldn't get her on the phone for about 7 hours. They let him off and did NOTHING, just talked to him. He kept calling and she talked to a victim's service agent. She said that a restraining order is not usually a good idea because it makes the stalker humiliated and possibly make them to drastic things.
And a restraining order does nothing to protect you, only does something AFTER the fact. She kept asking around different police agencies and they didn't seem too sympathetic saying they can't do anything until he actually does something.

But it might work with your gf's stalker...I dunno my ex's stalker was totally crazy and was one of those punk thug wannabe that was in a gang so I didn't kick his arse, otherwise he could've gotten me or her killed.

It's really frustrating not being able to do anything. But hope you get it settled quick.

BTW yes you do wanna log every call he makes (I forget how but it's like *86 or something) and save his messages he leaves.

It's not that I feel cops are useless but the laws regarding this suck and the cops can't do anything either (of course that varies state to state).
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Old 02-17-2003, 10:47 AM   #24
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My suggestion:

.45 and a Shovel!

Tough spot you're in there Danny... I don't think I would deal with the situation half as well as you are. Good luck... but I would suggest that your GF totally ignore this freak. And maybe not a restraining order yet, but the police should be aware what's going, just in case it dosen't get confrotational.

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Old 02-17-2003, 11:10 AM   #25
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listen to what bjlee said. my g/f had the same problem with a guy when we first got together, can definetly be a scary situation. does your g/f live with you? if not, it might be a good idea for her to stay with you a week or so.

documenting everything is a good idea also. confronting a person like this, with the tough guy attitude "i'm gonna beat your ass" usually isn't a good idea either. good luck
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