Why do I feel like a counselor? (divorce)

edubb11 · 12-01-2003, 01:24 AM

Well, after not hearing from a good high school buddy of mine for the last few months, she gives me a call out of the blue this weekend. Last I talked to her, she seemed to be happy in her new marriage with her hubby.
The first time she calls, I don't get the call, and notice it on my celly. I figured I would call her later in the day... I wouldn't get a chance to as she calls me again within the hour. I answer the call this time, and we gets to talking. I figured she is calling to wish me a happy holiday, but I notice something different in her voice. I ask her what's new, and she seems reluctant to say anything, and prefers to just gossip a bit. She soon asks me what I am doing that night, and then I knew something was wrong. I ask about her hubby, and she informs me that she is finalizing a divorce with him this week, after 11 months with him.
Now I don't have a problem with hanging out with her, but why does it seem, to me, that whenever my female friends have these types of problems they always look to me? At first I was worried that she would want to do something (we did have a little attraction to eachother back in the day, but nothing ever became of it), but it turned out that she just needed to get out.
This isn't the first time this has happened, when my best friend broke up with his ex, she was on the phone with me day after day looking for console. In this situation she actually developed an attraction to me, which I could not allow because after all, she DID date my best friend for 5 years. Another good female friend of mine seemed to believe that I was perfect for letting off a little steam with, and would call me when her and her s/o of the time were going thru hardship.

My question is: Why me? I have a hard enough time trying to find myself a decent woman, but I seem to be a hell of a good counselor!

Cliffs Notes
- friend gets divorced, she calls me to hang out, after not speaking for approx. 5-6 months.
- previous to this, 2 other friends looked to me for console after: 1) losing my best friend as her boyfriend, and 2) experiencing hard times with then current boyfriend.

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RainOnYourParade · 12-01-2003, 01:28 AM

Well, you must be a good counselor. I hope they don't think you're gay, or anything...

...that would explain the lack of action. j/p

Don't know what to tell you man, maybe you just listen well?

edubb11 · 12-01-2003, 01:32 AM

So... I just listen well, but I'm not a good enough guy to go on a date with? That is how I feel sometimes.

Quote:

Originally posted by RainOnYourParade
Well, you must be a good counselor. I hope they don't think you're gay, or anything...

...that would explain the lack of action. j/p

Don't know what to tell you man, maybe you just listen well?

So... I just listen well, but I'm not a good enough guy to go on a date with? That is how I feel sometimes. Also, I get more than enough action from my girl Pamela!

ColinL · 12-01-2003, 01:34 AM

would you consider yourself attractive? like, better than average looking? because sometimes women don't work all that differently than men.

if not, then you're just saying things that make them feel good. friends should do that as long as you're not propping up lies they're trying to spin.

but friends don't start boinking other friends exes. that's a bad idea. good way to crater your circle of friends --although them breaking up in itself will do that.

edubb11 · 12-01-2003, 01:41 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by ColinL
would you consider yourself attractive? like, better than average looking? because sometimes women don't work all that differently than men.

if not, then you're just saying things that make them feel good. friends should do that as long as you're not propping up lies they're trying to spin.

but friends don't start boinking other friends exes. that's a bad idea. good way to crater your circle of friends --although them breaking up in itself will do that.

I would consider myself attractive, save the hair! Maybe it's that I'm lacking in confidence or just don't have an attractive personality? (I can be a bit shy at times) Maybe that explains why women sometimes like to ignore me... And I would NEVER get into an intimate relationship with my friends exes, as that just spells trouble.

But, I am probably the best damn listener this side of Orlando! Woohoo!

Heh.

RainOnYourParade · 12-01-2003, 02:39 AM

Well, maybe a little more confidence...I think we went over this in the "Damn, right now I wish I was married" thread...which I no longer know where it's at...but apparently girls go for ********, but always cry to the guy that they're supposed to be with. Go figure.

12-01-2003, 01:24 AM	#1
edubb11 Scooby Newbie Member#: 23918 Join Date: Sep 2002 Chapter/Region: South East Location: I have a spork. Vehicle: 2002 WRX (SOLD) :( Sex? Yes, please.	Why do I feel like a counselor? (divorce) Well, after not hearing from a good high school buddy of mine for the last few months, she gives me a call out of the blue this weekend. Last I talked to her, she seemed to be happy in her new marriage with her hubby. The first time she calls, I don't get the call, and notice it on my celly. I figured I would call her later in the day... I wouldn't get a chance to as she calls me again within the hour. I answer the call this time, and we gets to talking. I figured she is calling to wish me a happy holiday, but I notice something different in her voice. I ask her what's new, and she seems reluctant to say anything, and prefers to just gossip a bit. She soon asks me what I am doing that night, and then I knew something was wrong. I ask about her hubby, and she informs me that she is finalizing a divorce with him this week, after 11 months with him. Now I don't have a problem with hanging out with her, but why does it seem, to me, that whenever my female friends have these types of problems they always look to me? At first I was worried that she would want to do something (we did have a little attraction to eachother back in the day, but nothing ever became of it), but it turned out that she just needed to get out. This isn't the first time this has happened, when my best friend broke up with his ex, she was on the phone with me day after day looking for console. In this situation she actually developed an attraction to me, which I could not allow because after all, she DID date my best friend for 5 years. Another good female friend of mine seemed to believe that I was perfect for letting off a little steam with, and would call me when her and her s/o of the time were going thru hardship. My question is: Why me? I have a hard enough time trying to find myself a decent woman, but I seem to be a hell of a good counselor! Cliffs Notes - friend gets divorced, she calls me to hang out, after not speaking for approx. 5-6 months. - previous to this, 2 other friends looked to me for console after: 1) losing my best friend as her boyfriend, and 2) experiencing hard times with then current boyfriend. * Registered users of the site do not see these ads.

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12-01-2003, 01:28 AM	#2
RainOnYourParade Scooby Newbie Member#: 46118 Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: VA	Well, you must be a good counselor. I hope they don't think you're gay, or anything... ...that would explain the lack of action. j/p Don't know what to tell you man, maybe you just listen well?

12-01-2003, 01:34 AM	#4
ColinL Scooby Guru Member#: 114 Join Date: Jul 1999 Chapter/Region: MWSOC Location: Wichita, KS and Whoring, OT Vehicle: '03 Evo, Rice White '01 Erion CBR 929	would you consider yourself attractive? like, better than average looking? because sometimes women don't work all that differently than men. if not, then you're just saying things that make them feel good. friends should do that as long as you're not propping up lies they're trying to spin. but friends don't start boinking other friends exes. that's a bad idea. good way to crater your circle of friends --although them breaking up in itself will do that.

12-01-2003, 02:39 AM	#6
RainOnYourParade Scooby Newbie Member#: 46118 Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: VA	Well, maybe a little more confidence...I think we went over this in the "Damn, right now I wish I was married" thread...which I no longer know where it's at...but apparently girls go for ********, but always cry to the guy that they're supposed to be with. Go figure.