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Old 06-25-2004, 01:28 PM   #1
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Default Need advice opinions! Wife wants more kids. I don't.

What do I do?!?! Yeah I pretty much love my wife. She surprised me with a baby a few years back. (not planned) and I was apprehensive about it. (she still holds this against me to this day) but I love my son. I do everything with him, we go to the park, zoo, movies, see the sites, I make sure he is well loved. but he has been a LOT of work. (5 years old)

Background: I always said I loved kids, and wanted a couple. Then got married, found out how much work they are and not really wanting any more.

She works nights, sleeps durring the day. So that right there puts me in charge of him most of the time. I therefore have very little to no life.

Add to that...she has a boyfriend. Screwed up, I know. (that is for another thread on another day) She has said that she will stop seeing him if we have another baby though. gee thanks.

I have just started doing a little side business. It is going really well, but requires a good deal of my time. having another kid would put a serious damper on it, if not kill it alltogether.

Add to all this that she has a temper, which kinda evens out since I am so laid back (ok I mean lazy, but laid back too). We don't really do anything together except watch movies. There really isn't anything that we have in common either.

After reading over my post, I can see I have answered my own questions,b ut would love some of your advice and opinions.

Oh and yes, I am a long standing member (more than most here) but am hidding my name.
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Old 06-25-2004, 01:30 PM   #2
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No way should you have another kid with her. Especially for that kids sake.
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Old 06-25-2004, 01:32 PM   #3
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i stopped reading after ...she has a boyfriend...what the hell dude...get out of there pronto...take the kid and go...whats wrong with you
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Old 06-25-2004, 01:33 PM   #4
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Do not father another child with her.
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Old 06-25-2004, 01:34 PM   #5
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Add to that...she has a boyfriend. Screwed up, I know. (that is for another thread on another day) She has said that she will stop seeing him if we have another baby though. gee thanks.
Jesus Christ on a moped. We don't need another thread on another day, or another post, if you're being truthful and accurate here. Get proof she's got a boyfriend somewheres, divorce that chick and sue for custody.

Why do you need advice here? Your path is clear.
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Old 06-25-2004, 01:34 PM   #6
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HIL,

You need to see a marriage counselor, ASAP.
Nothing here at OT will help otherwise.

As for the kid problem, don't do it as things will only get worst for your specific situation.
Cover your dong and never take it outside without a hat.

OH BTW, before someone calls WAPCE...I'm sorry buddy but I gotta call MASS.

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Old 06-25-2004, 01:35 PM   #7
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Old 06-25-2004, 01:35 PM   #8
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Default Re: Need advice opinions! Wife wants more kids. I don't.

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Background: I always said I loved kids, and wanted a couple. Then got married, found out how much work they are and not really wanting any more.

Add to that...she has a boyfriend. Screwed up, I know. (that is for another thread on another day) She has said that she will stop seeing him if we have another baby though. gee thanks.

There really isn't anything that we have in common either.

After reading over my post, I can see I have answered my own questions,.


And I agree wholeheartedly with your last sentence. I also wish you the best of luck in removing yourself from what sounds like a real, real bad existence.
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Old 06-25-2004, 01:35 PM   #9
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No way should you have another kid with her. Especially for that kids sake.
agreed.

guy, i don't know you, but YOU SIR, ARE INSANE. your WIFE has a BOYFRIEND. uh. um. mmmmmmmmmmmmm....

she will stop dating him if you guys have another kid? why didn't that work for the first kid? why is she dating someone in the first place? why are you tolerating all this? are you lazy or just extremely passive and unaggressive?
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Old 06-25-2004, 01:36 PM   #10
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Can you say...NO WAY

How dare her ask you a question like that...Have her boyfriend help her out.
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Old 06-25-2004, 01:36 PM   #11
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damn you bastards type faster than i.
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Old 06-25-2004, 01:37 PM   #12
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Add to that...she has a boyfriend. Screwed up, I know. (that is for another thread on another day) She has said that she will stop seeing him if we have another baby though. gee thanks.

Tell her to get ****ed. Whaere are you.. if you are somewhere that severely frowns on adultery, divorce the bitch and take the kid. Live a happy healthy life for the sake of your son.

She is trying to blackmail you by saying that she will quit banging this other guy if you agree to another kid.

**** her



Been there with the whole 'wife with a boyfriend' thing. If I had it to do over again, it would have turned out very different.
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Old 06-25-2004, 01:38 PM   #13
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Been there with the whole 'wife with a boyfriend' thing. If I had it to do over again, it would have turned out very different.
meaning death for your wife and her boyfriend?

i kid.
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Old 06-25-2004, 01:38 PM   #14
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HIL,

You need to see a marriage counselor, ASAP.
Nothing here at OT will help otherwise.

As for the kid problem, don't do it as things will only get worst for your specific situation.
Cover your dong and never take it outside without a hat.

OH BTW, before someone calls WAPCE...I'm sorry buddy but I gotta call MASS.

- Janq
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Old 06-25-2004, 01:39 PM   #15
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meaning death for your wife and her boyfriend?

i kid.
Not too far off the mark there buddy
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Old 06-25-2004, 01:39 PM   #16
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It's been said, but here it is again: get out man. You would be happier elsewhere, and chances are after awhile your son would be too.
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Old 06-25-2004, 01:40 PM   #17
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Run Away!
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Old 06-25-2004, 01:41 PM   #18
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Start taking long hot baths, stand in front of the microwave for long periods at a time and if you're not already wearing them, try tightie whities.
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Old 06-25-2004, 01:42 PM   #19
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Just an idea: is this possible BS?

The name seems to lend itself to the possiblity that he registered with the intent of posting this exact topic........not to mention the blank local.
OR
maybe it is a OT regular who wants to be incogneato (sp?)
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Old 06-25-2004, 01:43 PM   #20
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I have a co-worker sitting ~30 feet from me right now that was the woman in this type of situation about 5-6 years ago. she got her boyfriend to pay for breast implants!

the hubby finally walked after she got pregnant with the bf. hubby was sure it wasn't his because they hadn't done the deed themselves in quite a while.

she just recently got remarried. different guy-- dunno if he has any clue about her past and why kid #3 looks a little different than the older two. but then again he's a finance & warranty guy at a car dealership so I suspect they deserve each other!
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Old 06-25-2004, 01:43 PM   #21
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"Could I be posting subconsciously under another username?" Oh NO35!!!!!!!!!My alter ego took over.


But then, I realized I already have 3 boys. I don't want any more kids. My wife wants a girl. I don't want any more kids.

My wife doesn't have a boyfriend. And did I mention I don't want any more kids???

I hate minivans..........

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Old 06-25-2004, 01:43 PM   #22
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You should seriously consider marriage counseling, and you need to think long and hard about what you are doing with your life. Get out of there now, and take your child with you.

You only have so many years, man, it's not worth wasting your time with a ****ing whore like this. I hate cheaters.
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Old 06-25-2004, 01:43 PM   #23
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I can't believe the gall of this woman.

She openly gets a boyfriend, puts the responsibility of your son on YOUR shoulders, and has the nerve to act like she has the upper hand?

I don't think so.

Get proof, take the son, leave her, and kick her to the side of the road.
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Old 06-25-2004, 01:44 PM   #24
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I thought my mariage got ****ed up??
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Old 06-25-2004, 01:44 PM   #25
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Just an idea: is this possible BS?

The name seems to lend itself to the possiblity that he registered with the intent of posting this exact topic........not to mention the blank local.
OR
maybe it is a OT regular who wants to be incogneato (sp?)



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Oh and yes, I am a long standing member (more than most here) but am hidding my name.
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