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Old 10-14-2004, 02:06 AM   #1
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Default So I have to look at a dead baby at work...

Well I share my cubicle with another person who works in the morning and I work nights.

Well I come into and see a picture in my cube from the morning person, it is a picture of a baby girl. I notice the baby has some wierd things on its face. Then I see a note on the side saying "A life lost is never forgotten."

So I ask my manager about it, and she mentions that the person who sits there in the morning was pregnant and 2 weeks before she was due she found out she had lost it but still had to deliver it. I guess thats a stillborn.

Well I heard that and felt horrible that it had to happen.

But what I wonder, is why is that at my desk?! I mean I'm sorry it happened but I don't want to look at that all day. I feel bad and it kinda upsets me.
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Old 10-14-2004, 02:07 AM   #2
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oh god no...remember that one thread...blech.

do a search for creepy stillborn pictures.
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Old 10-14-2004, 02:08 AM   #3
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I remember that thread from way back.

I kinda giggled at work when I thought of it and I thought of the .gif.
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Old 10-14-2004, 02:09 AM   #4
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Just leave a pile of dead baby jokes on the keyboard or something, she'll get the hint.
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Old 10-14-2004, 02:10 AM   #5
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That woman is nuts. **** happens, but why make it part of every day of your life and go through that pain every day of the week. And after all, SHE'S A BABY MAKING MACHINE! She's got plenty more where that came from!

Rather than lamenting over the past I think she should just hop in the sack and try again.

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Well I share my cubicle with another person who works in the morning and I work nights.

Well I come into and see a picture in my cube from the morning person, it is a picture of a baby girl. I notice the baby has some wierd things on its face. Then I see a note on the side saying "A life lost is never forgotten."

So I ask my manager about it, and she mentions that the person who sits there in the morning was pregnant and 2 weeks before she was due she found out she had lost it but still had to deliver it. I guess thats a stillborn.

Well I heard that and felt horrible that it had to happen.

But what I wonder, is why is that at my desk?! I mean I'm sorry it happened but I don't want to look at that all day. I feel bad and it kinda upsets me.
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Old 10-14-2004, 02:11 AM   #6
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Well I share my cubicle with another person who works in the morning and I work nights.

Well I come into and see a picture in my cube from the morning person, it is a picture of a baby girl. I notice the baby has some wierd things on its face. Then I see a note on the side saying "A life lost is never forgotten."

So I ask my manager about it, and she mentions that the person who sits there in the morning was pregnant and 2 weeks before she was due she found out she had lost it but still had to deliver it. I guess thats a stillborn.

Well I heard that and felt horrible that it had to happen.

But what I wonder, is why is that at my desk?! I mean I'm sorry it happened but I don't want to look at that all day. I feel bad and it kinda upsets me.
Wow. Thats a terrible story.

I'm honestly suprised that is allowed in the workplace.
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Old 10-14-2004, 02:16 AM   #7
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That woman is nuts. **** happens, but why make it part of every day of your life and go through that pain every day of the week. And after all, SHE'S A BABY MAKING MACHINE! She's got plenty more where that came from!

Rather than lamenting over the past I think she should just hop in the sack and try again.
no joke, why would you continue to punish yourself unless you did something that would affect the baby(say doing a line of coke). That's just horrible to look at every day. There's no sense in punishing yourself for something you couldn't have controlled
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Old 10-14-2004, 02:16 AM   #8
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Ages ago a former coworker and ex-roomate of mine went through that with his GF.
Through the whole pregnancy he was an ass hole saying it wasn't his (it was) and that the girl cheated on him (she didn't). He was a player and she was some dumb country broad who didn't know better.

Well the week before delivery date comes and the baby is no longer moving.
So she goes to her OB for a checkup and they dont detect a heart beat.
After a sonogram they discover the babies umbillical cord had wrapped around its body and got kinked.

She had to carry the baby for and extra 4 days, dead inside her, and then choose to deliver it naturally rather than have an induction or a c-section (she didn't want scars).
It was the second saddest thing I've ever had to attend, the 'birth'.
Afterward we all stood around holding the full term baby (it looked and felt like it was asleep) and a two days later I attended the funeral with my buddy.

These things are not uncommon at all.
Lifes tough, even before you get a chance to live it.

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Old 10-14-2004, 02:17 AM   #9
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I dont see the point in saving pictures of it.
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Old 10-14-2004, 02:21 AM   #10
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I dont see the point in saving pictures of it.
nor do i
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Old 10-14-2004, 02:23 AM   #11
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I dont see the point in saving pictures of it.
You carry and love something in your body for 9 months or less and see how quickly you just forget about it.

IRL they just look like they are asleep, peaceful and tranquil.

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Old 10-14-2004, 02:28 AM   #12
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It didn't look dead, it just looked like it was sleeping. But then I realized it was dead and just got this stomach ache.
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Old 10-14-2004, 02:29 AM   #13
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well, you might all not see the point in saving pictures, but people get very attached to their unborn babies. i know it's hard to understand, but this just isn't uncommon. and it's an even stronger attachment for the woman who CARRIES the baby INSIDE her! i guess the idea of having pictures is just kind of a way to let that child live in a sense that they never did. many women even consider their miscarriages to be children of theirs. I simply cannot explain it ... you just have to try to be understanding for those people.
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Old 10-14-2004, 02:33 AM   #14
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It didn't look dead, it just looked like it was sleeping. But then I realized it was dead and just got this stomach ache.
Yeah dead babies just aren't cool in real life.
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Old 10-14-2004, 07:34 AM   #15
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That's the saddest thing I have heard in a long time.

My wife's pregnant right now, and if that happened to us, I can only imagine how destroyed we might be. After the first sonogram the other day, when we could see the baby's heartbeat (at 8 weeks), I realized that I am really going to be a dad.

So yeah, the attachment starts before the kid's born.

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Old 10-14-2004, 07:55 AM   #16
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i'd say just leave a small note taped to the picture, with condolences for her loss, but that it makes you feel very uncomfortable to have a picture of her dead child sitting at your desk, and ask for her to put it in her personal drawer (if you guys have lockable personal drawers) when she leaves every night.

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Old 10-14-2004, 08:03 AM   #17
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I was a still born...

but then I woke up.
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Old 10-14-2004, 08:04 AM   #18
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I say you get over it. You didn't have any issues until you heard the story. This is one of those situations where your discomfort is substantially smaller than hers, why make her pain greater by giving the message that her way of dealing with it is not acceptable? Life isn't all pretty and perfect and sometimes you have to accommodate other people.
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Old 10-14-2004, 08:06 AM   #19
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I've known people who have gone through stuff like this, and it is really sad... but if you share a desk with someone, take the picture home with you. There's no need to force your grief on others. There's much better ways to get sympathy.
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Old 10-14-2004, 08:12 AM   #20
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whoops, I missed the reading comprehension. Yeah if she's not even there to look at the picture while you're there, then it should be placed in a drawer. Sorry for posting without full comprehension.
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Old 10-14-2004, 08:17 AM   #21
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Yeah dead babies just aren't cool in real life.
They're about room temperature, I'd reckon.
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Old 10-14-2004, 08:24 AM   #22
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I think if it's in your sight all day and it makes you uncomforatble, you should politely ask for it to be moved so you can't see it. It's very sensitive, don't be an a-hole about it.
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I say you get over it. You didn't have any issues until you heard the story. This is one of those situations where your discomfort is substantially smaller than hers, why make her pain greater by giving the message that her way of dealing with it is not acceptable? Life isn't all pretty and perfect and sometimes you have to accommodate other people.
I agree. Easy to say, but not so easy to do I'm sure.

I don't think leaving a note for her asking her to put the picture in her personal draw is a good idea.

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Old 10-14-2004, 09:13 AM   #24
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the event is a big deal, sure. but putting up a picture of a corpse? not to be insensitive, but that's just plain inappropriate. get an airbrushed "in memory of . . . " t-shirt or some vinyl decals for the back window of your ride or something, lady. that seems to be a popular method of mourning around here.
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That woman is nuts. **** happens, but why make it part of every day of your life and go through that pain every day of the week. And after all, SHE'S A BABY MAKING MACHINE! She's got plenty more where that came from!

Rather than lamenting over the past I think she should just hop in the sack and try again.
Wow. You are one cold, unfeeling sonofabitch. I hope you have a painful hangnail, which made you cranky enough to write this--but that you don't really mean that.

This is a horrible story. I feel terrible for the woman. Granted, she should not have left that picture laying around in a place of work. But you have to feel bad for the woman.
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