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Old 12-16-2004, 02:15 AM   #1
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Default I think my best friend just screwed me over royaly! What to do?

Some of you know that I have bought an engagment ring and have plans to propose to my girlfriend, Jen, in Disney World on Jan 12th. I have been planning this for about a year, and have gone all out with flowers, music a seperate room with candles....Its awesome. My best friend Chad, whose family Im staying with the first few night, has been apart of the plan every since the get go. My girlfriend Jen is very smart and cunning and she had an idea that I was going to propose on the Disney world trip. Well to throw her all track I had Chad tell her that he was going to propose to his girlfriend, as a scam or charade. It worked like a charm. So everything was set, the plan was in motion everything...until today.

I met Chad at his house where he tells me "Hey I got something to show you", "Youre either going to be really mad or really happy"...........yup you guessed it, Chad has bought and engagement ring for his girlfriend and wants to propose in DISNEY WORLD 3 days before I do it. His propose idea is just simple, and proposal before Dinner at the Polyenisian(sp), no big production like mine, which will happen in the Magic Kingdom at the wishing well by the castle. He explained it in such a way in which he believes it will solidify in Jen's mind that Im not proposing and will be a bigger suprise, I agreed to it.........but now the more that I think about it.........if he proposes first it really cheapins my idea, my plans. What would you guys do if put in my shoes. If I blow up and explode, its going to ruin both plans.........., but if I dont do something a years worth of planning could be going down the drain. Would it be better if he proposed before me or after?? otherwise if he proposed after me, would less of my "thunder" be stolen???

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Old 12-16-2004, 02:17 AM   #2
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Damn Wolf....that is horrible, he's totally stolen your thunder.
Sheet man talk to him and see if there is any way he can do something else on another month or something.

This sucks man.

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Old 12-16-2004, 02:19 AM   #3
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Ouch, that plan just backfired on you man.

I wouldn't be that happy with how that turned out.
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Old 12-16-2004, 02:20 AM   #4
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ask him to do it the same day you do...
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Old 12-16-2004, 02:21 AM   #5
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I don't think she'll think you jsut threw it together in three days.

Your "thunder" won't be stolen, if anyting she'll think it was romantic and wish that it would happen to her, then BAMMM!! her wish comes true.

Don't worry about it, once it happens, nothing else matters to a girl, remember she's waiting for you, not you waiting for her.
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Old 12-16-2004, 02:22 AM   #6
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yea do it on the same day or just get smart and dont do it
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Old 12-16-2004, 02:22 AM   #7
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Wow. I'd tell him "no way man, sorry". He should understand, but then again, he seems to want to snake the idea away from ya but using a defense mechanism (rationalization) to make it seems like it's ok.

If he refuses: sabotage

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Old 12-16-2004, 02:22 AM   #8
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i think you guys should do it in the same day.
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Old 12-16-2004, 02:23 AM   #9
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Tell him to propose at a different theme park???

I really think you should tell him how you truly feel about this, that it was your plan and you have been planning on this for a very long time. If he is your friend, he will understand how you really want this to be a special moment and will not propose to his gf before you do it.
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Old 12-16-2004, 02:25 AM   #10
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Same day, different locations.... FOR SURE.
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Old 12-16-2004, 02:26 AM   #11
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i think you guys should do it in the same day.
Yeah thats his only play now other than the 'friend' agreeing to beg off an get his own damn program.
It's a shame the friend evem had the nerve to plan his to be first rather than taking the position of wingman.

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Old 12-16-2004, 02:28 AM   #12
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Same day, different locations.... FOR SURE.
Thats the only way to avoid everything going wrong foe sho.
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Old 12-16-2004, 02:29 AM   #13
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Ya propose the same day, then make the bachalor and wedding day the same too so you can save on the cost. Hell you should even book the same room for the honeymoon night and have a nice orgy....ya I'm chinese I'm cheap...haha.
But honestly if your buddie does propse the same day, make sure yours has more eye candy, do it during the fire works or in a larger crowd than your buddies'.
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Old 12-16-2004, 02:29 AM   #14
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I also agree with Mikkito
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Old 12-16-2004, 02:30 AM   #15
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yea, if he does it before you, he's defnately stealing your thunder. same day, different locations, same time is cool...or you first is cool.

ps, your friend is a dick
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Old 12-16-2004, 02:31 AM   #16
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If you can't get him to reschedule or play nice, change your plan to propose the afternoon before his plan. Completely take the wind out of his sails, and get your proposal as close as originally planned.
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Old 12-16-2004, 02:38 AM   #17
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If you can't get him to reschedule or play nice, change your plan to propose the afternoon before his plan. Completely take the wind out of his sails, and get your proposal as close as originally planned.
there you go create stirfe half way through the vacation
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Old 12-16-2004, 02:42 AM   #18
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yeah, pre-empt him by a day or 6 hours or whatever.

PS: i also believe your friend is a dick
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Old 12-16-2004, 02:49 AM   #19
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What if he does it a day or 2 after me?? That will give me time to explain to my girlfriend what happened. I might be able to get him to change the day. I dont thin he is being a dick I just think he is clueless.

I really cant change my plans, due to flowers being delievered, reservations.....its just not possible.

as far as a proposal on the same day, that cant happen either because my friend plays a very important part of my plans
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Old 12-16-2004, 02:54 AM   #20
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see if he can do it on the same day, tell him that way HIS gf won't be around afterward to hear how yours went, so she won't get jealous.
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Old 12-16-2004, 02:56 AM   #21
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Him after you. YOU had the idea first; let him fend for himself after his GF gets through going "awww, that's so great" and then he can whip out his ring and follow suit. Repeat, follow suit; as in quite a bit later in the day or a few days later.

Perhaps he can do it as the sun sets on DisneyLand? Sunset glow, castle, etc...
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Old 12-16-2004, 03:01 AM   #22
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How about ... you change the plans all by yourself and not tell anybody at all about it ... and you propose to your ger the day before he does!!!

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Old 12-16-2004, 03:03 AM   #23
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Old 12-16-2004, 03:09 AM   #24
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Bail on the whole Disney World idea and take a cruise or something else without telling your friend?
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Old 12-16-2004, 03:22 AM   #25
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not to be callous, but:

unless your girlfriend is a twit, she will see all the preperation and effort you put into your plans and will be shocked that you went through it all FOR HER. If she thinks it's somehow cheap because your friend also got engaged, well hmmm i don't know what to say about that. Carry on as planned!
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