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Old 10-16-2005, 08:58 PM   #1
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Default WWOTD! Need help with my friend + his gf WAPCE

Wow so I am not at all sure what I should do right now...

background info - My friend gets a new job, he meets this girl and they have been seeing each other for about a month and a half... he hasn't nailed her yet, but they've definately been hooking up and the like. I've met her a few times and she seems really chill and good for him.

Today, I get an IM from a friend who lives in her town (he lives about 45 minutes away from me and my friend).

him- Yo is your friend dating jen?
me- Yeah why?
him- Dude, one of my good buddies is dating her too....
me- *** MATE *in shock*

he gives me the friends sn so I can talk to him, I proceed to find out that he has been dating her for a year blah blah, and he is PISSED that there is another guy in the picture.

I know I have to tell my buddy, but I need your guys opinion on this... I feel so terrible

WAPCE!
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Old 10-16-2005, 09:00 PM   #2
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tell him
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Old 10-16-2005, 09:00 PM   #3
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Call up your buddy and tell him RIGHT NOW. DTB
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Old 10-16-2005, 09:02 PM   #4
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Don't even wait tell him now
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Old 10-16-2005, 09:03 PM   #5
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should I call gf first, or let him handle it?
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Old 10-16-2005, 09:03 PM   #6
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tell him, then get with the other guys and plan to do something mean to this WAPCE.
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Old 10-16-2005, 09:04 PM   #7
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This is an open and shut case of WAPCE if the facts are indeed correct. Tell him.
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Old 10-16-2005, 09:05 PM   #8
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Tell him NOW before he gets even more attached. He will thank you later.
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Old 10-16-2005, 09:09 PM   #9
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Date her too? She obvously doesnt care.
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Old 10-16-2005, 09:09 PM   #10
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tell him, then get with the other guys and plan to do something mean to this WAPCE.
one two three four fif


Or.. maybe sure its the right Jen. Got last names? OT knows all.
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Old 10-16-2005, 09:19 PM   #11
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I just told him... and he's in denial...

this sucks
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Old 10-16-2005, 09:29 PM   #12
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now he is mad at ME, he's saying that he knows he's not getting cheated on... and saying I should leave him the F alone

ugh
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Old 10-16-2005, 09:33 PM   #13
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thats cuz your either wrong, or your friend is a douche.
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Old 10-16-2005, 09:36 PM   #14
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I just told him... and he's in denial...

this sucks
Save your IM convo to a file. When it all goes down (and it will in time) just email this conversation of him denying it back to him. "SEE? I was trying to help you but you didn't want to hear it."

Remind him of his mistakes in hopes that he will learn from them as right now he doesn't sound too bright.

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Old 10-16-2005, 09:39 PM   #15
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Your buddy is her backup BF, she's probably going to dump the other guy eventually.
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Old 10-16-2005, 09:41 PM   #16
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saved the aim convo, now im just gonna see how the **** hits the fan (it will soon, my buddy and the kid both called her and she denied it to both people).... and i gave my buddy the kids sn so they can figure it out


best I can do
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Old 10-16-2005, 10:37 PM   #17
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saved the aim convo, now im just gonna see how the **** hits the fan (it will soon, my buddy and the kid both called her and she denied it to both people).... and i gave my buddy the kids sn so they can figure it out


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You can lead a horse to water...
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Old 10-17-2005, 05:29 AM   #18
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hey, i'm pretty new to OT.
i've been trying to guess wat WAPCE is....
o yeah, n also,
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Old 10-17-2005, 06:48 AM   #19
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I could have told you not to stick your nose in his business. ANY time a "friend" tells his friend his GF is cheating, you get it thrown back in your face.

Now you are the bad guy.

I would strongly recommend you apologize to your friend for sticking your nose in his business, and that it will never happen again. Be serious, and mean it, and take him out for drinks or whatever to make up for it.

Now, if he's in denial, that is his problem. You have done your part, drop it. If he cannot accept the truth then anything you do will make YOU look like an ass.
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Old 10-17-2005, 07:19 AM   #20
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have the two guys meet....then head over to her house...

hilarity ensues...
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Old 10-17-2005, 08:07 AM   #21
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have the two guys meet....then head over to her house...

hilarity ensues...
My old roomate did that, he was the longterm one. Said he came pretty close to wanting to kill the other dude on the ride over, even though his dumbass gf was the wapce. He ended up stayin with her anyway
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Old 10-17-2005, 08:28 AM   #22
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I could have told you not to stick your nose in his business. ANY time a "friend" tells his friend his GF is cheating, you get it thrown back in your face.

Now you are the bad guy.

I would strongly recommend you apologize to your friend for sticking your nose in his business, and that it will never happen again. Be serious, and mean it, and take him out for drinks or whatever to make up for it.

Now, if he's in denial, that is his problem. You have done your part, drop it. If he cannot accept the truth then anything you do will make YOU look like an ass.
You should have stayed the hell out of his business. I would have confronted her and left him out of it. Obviously she isn't going to talk to him about it. She may be the type of person who won't end a relationship unless she has something else to move onto. Your friend may be the something else. Then again he may just be her plaything. Either way you should have left it alone or confronted her about it.

I would have came up to her and told her you know about it, you don't want to see one of your buddies F'ed around with, so she either has to end things with him or you will tell him.
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Old 10-17-2005, 08:30 AM   #23
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You should have stayed the hell out of his business.
wouldnt this be contradictory of what you just said?

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I would have confronted her and left him out of it.
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I would have came up to her and told her you know about it, you don't want to see one of your buddies F'ed around with, so she either has to end things with him or you will tell him.
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Old 10-17-2005, 08:34 AM   #24
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my relationship with my girlfriend is my business, but if a good buddy of mine is witness to, or receives information from a credible source regarding exploits of my girlfriend that would more than likely end our relationship - if he didn't tell me, i'd be more than pissed.
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Old 10-17-2005, 08:41 AM   #25
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my relationship with my girlfriend is my business, but if a good buddy of mine is witness to, or receives information from a credible source regarding exploits of my girlfriend that would more than likely end our relationship - if he didn't tell me, i'd be more than pissed.
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