Wow, man sorry to see your car like that, i know how it feels. from the pictures it looks like it might be fixable. I cant tell if the air bags went off or not but if they didnt and the frame rail on that side is still straight the rest of the front end stuff will be simple to fix, reason i say this is because my car was damaged in the same way and they fixed it, the frame was never bent. They will be able to see more once the passanger side fender is pulled off. the core support and aprane up front is a easy weld in for a good body shop, you could even convert it to a 05 or 06 sytle front end now. I dont think u want them to total it since it will be hard to fight for the value of the time and effort you have into the car, and if they are smart they will work with you to fix it any way you want since thats going to be cheaper then trying to total the car out and go to court when they offer you piss money for it. Keep your cool and dont give up, in the end it will be worth your effort. Your car was perfect and your deserve nothing but a perfect car in the end. Good Luck!