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Old 04-29-2003, 08:38 PM   #1
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Found this article and totally agreed with the author. What do you think??

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Been there, Tried to do that, didn't work well.
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Old 04-29-2003, 08:39 PM   #2
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nope... 5 ex's and they are 5 people i no longer talk to often
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Old 04-29-2003, 08:39 PM   #3
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Hey Guys,

Found this article and totally agreed with the author. What do you think??

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Been there, Tried to do that, didn't work well.
hmmm NO.

In fact, i wouldnt mind if my ex died.

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Old 04-29-2003, 08:39 PM   #4
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I'm still good friends with an ex, but just her, I hate the rest of my exes.
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Old 04-29-2003, 08:40 PM   #5
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Only in the goofy hollywood sit coms
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Old 04-29-2003, 08:48 PM   #6
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im freinds with all my exs. Hell they still try to jump my bones on occasion. Silly redheads thank god i have morals of steel!
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Old 04-29-2003, 08:49 PM   #7
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Ahhh, I am normal, glad to hear it. Last girlfriend wanted to be friends after we broke up, just like in the movies and on TV, yet, anytime I pointed to a movie or TV show about something, expecially as it related to relationships, her answer was always, "that is not real life" Well, who isn't in reality now?? Hmph

Good Riddence (Damn I miss her way too much)

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Old 04-29-2003, 08:49 PM   #8
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nope. not possible. tried to be friend's with one and it didn't work.

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Old 04-29-2003, 08:53 PM   #9
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Been there, Tried to do that, didn't work well.
Ummm....after being broken up for 3 years...we're still trying to get the friends thing to work. I don't think it'll ever work out to the "Friends" zone. I think it'll stay in the "I'm nice to you and will say hi" zone forever. Plus, I hate that my best friend is dating her sister. I always get this feeling that they're talking about me.

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Old 04-29-2003, 08:53 PM   #10
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I'm really good friends with a few of them....the rest are lost causes. It takes effort and both parties involved need to want to make that effort.
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Old 04-29-2003, 08:59 PM   #11
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I'm very good friends with my ex-wife of 3 years, total relationship = 9 years.

jealousy is not a factor, as least not on my side of the equation. I don't want her, so what do I care what she does?

no passion exists, that's why we got divorced! she fell out of love with me long before the divorce was final and during no point of the falling out was there any make-up sex.

(I'm replying to the article's comments, for those who didn't read it and are reading the thread only...)

now am I good friends with other women from my past? nope. does some passion still exist? possibly. does some jealousy exist... maybe.
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Old 04-29-2003, 09:02 PM   #12
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I'm very good friends with my ex-wife of 3 years, total relationship = 9 years.

jealousy is not a factor, as least not on my side of the equation. I don't want her, so what do I care what she does?

no passion exists, that's why we got divorced! she fell out of love with me long before the divorce was final and during no point of the falling out was there any make-up sex.

(I'm replying to the article's comments, for those who didn't read it and are reading the thread only...)

now am I good friends with other women from my past? nope. does some passion still exist? possibly. does some jealousy exist... maybe.

That is very cool, I've seen you say something along those lines before. I can just imagine not many girls would be able to swallow that one tho.
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Old 04-29-2003, 09:04 PM   #13
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tara it has definitely made my life hell a time or two.

if I found someone that was perfect in everyway and she made me cut off contact with my ex-wife though-- done, no problem.
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Old 04-29-2003, 09:07 PM   #14
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That's what you do for someone you care about. Consider this, if she was perfect in everyway she'd understand and not ask you to do something like that.
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Old 04-29-2003, 09:17 PM   #15
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i was engaged for 1 1/2 years and i'm still friends with my ex.

now that i think about it, i'm still friends with most of my ex's.
maybe i'm one of rare few.
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Old 04-29-2003, 09:22 PM   #16
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Sure, you can stay friends with an ex... as long as it was never an especially serious thing in the first place. Then it's no issue. Other than that, it's unlikely.

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Old 04-29-2003, 09:24 PM   #17
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No way.. They become ex's because there is something that you dont like about them.
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Old 04-29-2003, 09:26 PM   #18
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Hrmmm..

I've got one ex that I was with for 4.5 years that is possibly my closest friend.

another that I dated for a few months that I was living with for 8 months or so up until recently, we're still good friends tho.

and yet another that I'm on speaking terms with, and we could be friends if I had any desire to be friends with people like her.
but I don't
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Old 04-29-2003, 10:40 PM   #19
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My one ex....we were together for 9 years....left me for another guy. They were together for 3 years before it fell apart....funny thing is....the ex left that guy for another one! The ex is a beoch. I'm over the relationship, but when we happen to run into each other, it brings back way too much pain (for me) for us to be friends. Don't see it happening!
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Old 04-29-2003, 10:47 PM   #20
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WTLW!

Anyway, the article is bs. I have several exs who are good friends. I even shared apartments with them after we broke up.
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Old 04-29-2003, 10:50 PM   #21
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I'm still friends with one of mine, the dirty rat bastard.
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Old 04-29-2003, 10:57 PM   #22
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I'm not sure the article is total BS, it does cover the majority of people. It's just that it leaves no possibility for mature and rational people to get along afterwards, which can happen.

It's no coincidence that some people have a trail of exes that they wouldn't trust with a loaded weapon and flee from on sight, and others have courteous, friendly, platonic interactions with their exes.

And it wasn't because they didn't love them or enjoy sex with them, or whatever. The quality of the relationship when it was going full steam has NOTHING to do with it, it's the way in which it ended and how both parties dealt with it.
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Old 04-29-2003, 11:23 PM   #23
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I hope my last ex sets her hair on fire. Stupid bitch (btw, i broke up with her not the other way around)
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Old 04-29-2003, 11:25 PM   #24
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I talk to my ex GF of 1 1/2 years every once and a while. I guess you could say we're friends, but our contact is almost always just over the phone. I'm not sure if it's a good idea to see her in person or not.
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I have a hard time maintaining friendship because there seems to be a lot of strain there.

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