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Old 05-13-2020, 09:36 AM   #1
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Default Dating at middle age in the modern age

If this is you please share your experiences. Anything you think is noteworthy to pass on to other singles that may not have had to date in over a decade.

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Old 05-13-2020, 09:48 AM   #2
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nearly 18 years ago, I did Match...it went okay, had a few dates.

I had better luck meeting new people through friends or at parties.

*shrug*

Oh, and know damn well what you want and who you are. I'm guessing there's reasons that you're newly single (not making assumptions on what went wrong), but in my case, there were things I allowed to happen in my life that I decided I no longer would tolerate. I made this VERY clear to anyone I met. A few of them understood and were cool with it, some noped-out, and a few said it was cool, but really weren't, and they got axed.

Learn who you are, be honest with yourself first, then be honest with them. People can grow/change, but know yourself first and make sure they do too, or you'll be doomed to end up right where you are now.
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Old 05-13-2020, 09:57 AM   #3
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they are still all crazy, and thats all you need to know.
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Old 05-13-2020, 10:03 AM   #4
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Yeah, don't be a ****ing weirdo. Makes it easier.
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Old 05-13-2020, 10:05 AM   #5
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Make sure you have a large penis. Older women are size queens.
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Old 05-13-2020, 10:07 AM   #6
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Go to a wedding. Find young drunk single woman. Let her molest you.

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Old 05-13-2020, 10:09 AM   #7
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Ugh. Dating. I wouldn't have the patience for that anymore.
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Old 05-13-2020, 10:10 AM   #8
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they are still all crazy, and thats all you need to know.
99.9% why I think I might pass on the whole thing. An uncle that was in his 60's had a girlfriend of similar age show up in his bushes in the middle of the night looking in his windows thinking he was sleeping around. He was just sleeping apparently not answering his phone as you'd do when you're asleep. "He's going to be stabbed to death by her within a year" I thought. He wasn't, years later I think he's back with his ex-wife. Stick with the crazy you're use to maybe is the lesson there.


I think I most wonder about how social media is dealt with. "Add me on Facebook?" - them... does that happen. If so, "no" - you... what happened?

Phones, texting, what not on dates. Last I dated smart phones weren't a thing and texting 24/7 was mostly done by folks well younger than me then.
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Old 05-13-2020, 10:10 AM   #9
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I'd pass.
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Old 05-13-2020, 10:10 AM   #10
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nearly 18 years ago, I did Match...it went okay, had a few dates.

I had better luck meeting new people through friends or at parties.

*shrug*

Oh, and know damn well what you want and who you are. I'm guessing there's reasons that you're newly single (not making assumptions on what went wrong), but in my case, there were things I allowed to happen in my life that I decided I no longer would tolerate. I made this VERY clear to anyone I met. A few of them understood and were cool with it, some noped-out, and a few said it was cool, but really weren't, and they got axed.

Learn who you are, be honest with yourself first, then be honest with them. People can grow/change, but know yourself first and make sure they do too, or you'll be doomed to end up right where you are now.
Sage advice. After I got divorced, I realized there were a ton of things I was merely tolerating for the sake of keeping the peace, and I'm not making those mistakes anymore. Being clear about my boundaries and having someone respect them is a big part of my currently very happy relationship.

When I started online dating 2 years ago, it was the first time I went on dates since I was 19. It didn't take too long to get a feel for the landscape. I enjoyed meeting new people and just had fun with it. The stress I was experiencing for years before melted away.
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Old 05-13-2020, 10:11 AM   #11
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From a friend.... don't try to make anything happen. If it does, it does. If when you go out, have fun and that's that.

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Old 05-13-2020, 11:05 AM   #12
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I just did the Baltimore version of Love is Blind for Facebook...

I ****in' hate dating these days. I don't have the time to text people or ****. Let's hang out and see if we have chemistry. I understand we can't do that right now..but even before that everyone was all about endless text. Nope, next. Talk for a day or two and then I set up a date. Not down with that? Cool, next.

Anyways dating sucks in the digital age. The number of people that don't read profiles is unreal. "Oh you don't want kids?" Uh...yeah, says it right ****in' there...

Once this (if) blows over just go back to meeting people out and about.

I will say it helps if you're an interesting person and have a personality. It's funny to talk to folks when they can't talk about what they're into now that doesn't involve drinking and the gym. Sorry, Becky, Brunch isn't a personality trait.
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Old 05-13-2020, 11:06 AM   #13
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I just did the Baltimore version of Love is Blind for Facebook...

I ****in' hate dating these days. I don't have the time to text people or ****. Let's hang out and see if we have chemistry. I understand we can't do that right now..but even before that everyone was all about endless text. Nope, next. Talk for a day or two and then I set up a date. Not down with that? Cool, next.

Anyways dating sucks in the digital age. The number of people that don't read profiles is unreal. "Oh you don't want kids?" Uh...yeah, says it right ****in' there...

Once this (if) blows over just go back to meeting people out and about.

I will say it helps if you're an interesting person and have a personality. It's funny to talk to folks when they can't talk about what they're into now that doesn't involve drinking and the gym. Sorry, Becky, Brunch isn't a personality trait.
If I was single I'd wife you up with the quickness
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Old 05-13-2020, 11:09 AM   #14
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Old 05-13-2020, 11:09 AM   #15
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The woman I'm dating I met doing trail maintenance about 3.5 years ago. and we started dating 1 year ago. We text with information, talk on the phone occasionally, and talk in person when we want to actually communicate. I am 58 and she is 57. I think the most successful strategy is to not freak out when they do something you think is weird, because you're weird too, and if you accept the weird in each other, everything seems to work out.

I met a lot of train wrecks from dating sites. If you meet someone for the first time for coffee, and she tells you stories about how poorly the men in her life have treated her, you might not want pursue a second meeting.

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Old 05-13-2020, 11:20 AM   #16
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The woman I'm dating I met doing trail maintenance about 3.5 years ago. and we started dating 1 year ago.

I met a lot of train wrecks from dating sites. If you meet someone for the first time for coffee, and she tells you stories about how poorly the men in her life have treated her, you might not want pursue a second meeting.
This falls under the rule that the men are most likely not the issue in her life if it's a common theme, she is.

Online dating is like wading through a sea of garbage looking for something of value. It's almost like having a second job and if you aren't willing to regularly put effort in someone else will scoop up any decent candidates that do show their face before you can.
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Old 05-13-2020, 11:29 AM   #17
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The woman I'm dating I met doing trail maintenance about 3.5 years ago. and we started dating 1 year ago. We text with information, talk on the phone occasionally, and talk in person when we want to actually communicate. I am 58 and she is 57. I think the most successful strategy is to not freak out when they do something you think is weird, because you're weird too, and if you accept the weird in each other, everything seems to work out.

I met a lot of train wrecks from dating sites. If you meet someone for the first time for coffee, and she tells you stories about how poorly the men in her life have treated her, you might not want pursue a second meeting.
Yep, that applies to both genders. Men who only seem to have psycho ex's either have poor decision making skills, or they drive the people around them insane.
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Old 05-13-2020, 11:35 AM   #18
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Dating..?

Have you considered recent advancements in hookers and blow?

Because I just could not see getting out there and hunting them up again. My version of dating at this point would be super passive, I would need to be pursued, super honest and super picky because ain't nobody got time for that at this point in life.

I am exhausted just thinking about it.
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Old 05-13-2020, 11:40 AM   #19
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I got matched on tinder, accidentally, with someone who claimed to be 26 weeks pregnant...she claimed not to be a hoe and that you must respect her and like big girls.

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Old 05-13-2020, 11:42 AM   #20
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I got matched on tinder, accidentally, with someone who claimed to be 26 weeks pregnant...she claimed not to be a hoe and that you must respect her and like big girls.

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Old 05-13-2020, 11:44 AM   #21
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Old 05-13-2020, 11:47 AM   #22
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Define "middle age."
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Old 05-13-2020, 11:55 AM   #24
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